The silence is deafening

I was a newly minted teacher (working in a Catholic school) when news broke of the sexual abuse scandal within the Church. I remember well the feeling of revulsion, of shock, and of betrayal.  How could these men, so similar to the men I had been blessed by my entire life, perform such horrible acts on children?

At the same time, I was scared of the rest of the world.  I was worried about speaking out because I didn’t want people to think I was abandoning the Church, even though I truly did have a crisis of faith, as many Catholics did at the time. My internal anger warred with my concerns about the perceptions of the external world.

One of the sisters at the school where I worked held a meeting for all parents and concerned community members. The room was packed to the gills, and the look on every face was the same: a mixture of anger and hopelessness.  At one point in the heated discussion, the diminutive sister shushed everyone and said with a voice full of consternation and authority, “Why do you keep asking what the Church is going to do about this?  This is YOUR church!  You ARE the Church!  What are you going to do about it?”

Her questions changed the whole climate of the meeting.  We began to discuss in positives, in plans of action. It was a long time before I fully healed, but the process began that night. As Catholics in good conscience, we demanded stricter protections for our children, and the Church has responded.

Since the first of the undercover videos was released last month, I’ve been waiting for a similar reaction to come from Planned Parenthood supporters. The pro-life movement is, as expected, full of anger and outrage. The pro-choice movement is willfully ignorant, or deafeningly silent.

 

The vast majority of what I see from the pro-choice movement falls under the “I Stand with PP” category.  Fine.  As my friend Mary said, though, you should know what it is you are standing with.  Intellectual integrity demands that if you stand with PP, you watch those videos, the entire unedited versions if you choose.

Maybe though, you’re like I was 13 years ago.  Shaken, revolted and angry, but unsure of how to react. I understand.

Let me say this. You can be pro-choice and be angry about Planned Parenthood potentially putting women in danger by changing the abortion procedure to make a buck. You can be pro-choice and be horrified at the thought of cutting through the face of a baby whose heart is still beating to “procure” brain tissue. You can be pro-choice and still demand accountability from Planned Parenthood.

You can be pro-choice and have something in common with pro-lifers like me.

What if, 13 years ago, Catholics had said “I Stand with the Church” and had turned a blind eye to abuse?  What would that make us?  Complicit in the abuse of children. Guilty of putting an institution before the people it serves.

What if Planned Parenthood is endangering women and torturing born babies and you turn a blind eye?

So I’m putting forth a challenge to people in the pro-choice movement. Watch the videos, or if abortion is a trigger for you, at least consider reading the descriptions. Once you’ve watched them, make a determination about whether or not you think Planned Parenthood has something to answer for.

Are there people in the pro-choice movement who will stand up and demand accountability of Planned Parenthood? Tell me they exist. Tell me I’ve been looking in all the wrong places and that there are people of good will on both sides of this argument standing up to Planned Parenthood. Tell me it’s you.  And then we can begin to work from common ground, whatever that may be.

 

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  1. I keep thinking the same thing. I don’t understand why people who are pro-choice are so beholden to this organization. Even if you think some abortion is okay, why this blind trust that EVERY single PP clinic and EVERY single employee is purely altruistic (in their view)? Could it really be just pride or is it…maybe more likely…fear that the truth may necessitate a response and that response may require change? Praying so so much for hearts and minds that are truly open.
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  2. Yes yes a million times yes. This is exactly what I’ve been saying. Are you (hypothetical you) so pro-choice that you don’t care at all if things are done legally or if those babies experience pain? My husband thinks that being pro-choice is so entrenched with being a democrat or a liberal that people who claim to be those can’t and won’t investigate this at all. Don’t be a dead body floating with the current! I posted the seventh video last night with some commentary describing what is seen in the video. I had a prochoice friend send me a private message late last night. She watched the video and was troubled by it “BUT, but, but…”. Her message was kind and genuinely curious, so I spent a long time responding. I dont expect people’s hearts to change over night, but we can slowly chip away at them. I hope that she is at least thinking about abortion now – so many prochoicers just don’t think about it all. Great post, Micaela

  3. Thank you for writing this, Micaela. THIS is the way to reach out to our pro-choice friends and family.
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  4. This is wonderfully written, Micaela and really gets to the point that SHOULD unite both sides. Just because you may be pro-choice does not mean that you have to be OK with the workings of the organization. I think there is a bit of fear there though in that one may lose their “progressive” card by speaking out agains PP, but the evidence shows that PP does not care about women.

  5. Darling friend, *I* am both pro-choice AND pro-life. Yes, it is possible, and we can discuss in person (please????). YES, we, who you seek, do exist.

    My questions in all of this are, WHY is the outrage directed almost solely on PP when the buyers of said *tissue* don’t even get a mention? The *market* for these things is what should get the blame, not solely one organization who participates in it.

    • I would LOVE to chat with you about this. We keep saying we’re going to and then, well babies. Life. But I think we should set up a regular coffee date and just do this. It would be good for our brains.

      Being prolife, it disgusts me that there is a market for fetal parts. I wish it didn’t exist, and if Stem Express (or anyone else) is breaking the law, they should be prosecuted.

      The enraging thing about these particular videos is that they appear to show high level PP employees repeatedly breaking (at the very least contorting) laws in which they *endanger women.* But progressives won’t stand up to them, presumably because to question PP is akin to being conservative. On top of that garbage, the PP CEO has flat out lied to the media, and the media itself does very very little fact checking. The government, from which PP receives more than half a BILLION dollars a year is more often than not ignoring all these allegations. How have we gotten to the point in our society where an organization has this much clout? If this was *any other* organization, on *any other* issue, the media would be calling for blood.
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