Hug Someone

Do you hug your kids enough?  I don’t.

Ali just came up and asked me to hold her.  I nearly brushed her off.  I have a list a mile long of Saturday morning chores: exercise video, toilet-cleaning, laundry-folding, lemonade-making (for a theoretical lemonade stand that may or may not happen tomorrow), and on and on, and I just wanted to get it done.  But she persisted, this time with a smile.  “Just hold me for a second,” she said.

Who can resist that?

So I did.  And it was lovely.  And I still have plenty of time for all those other (way less enjoyable) Saturday morning activities.

Go hug someone.  Your kids, your spouse, your friend, your neighbor…  Someone can use a hug from you.  I guarantee it.

I read recently that it’s estimated that 94% of American kids don’t receive the optimal amount of physical affection.  (Hold on to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld, which is much deeper than just hugging, FYI)  So sad.  Gonna try and work on this.


  1. After reading this, I called one of my kids who has been having several difficult days lately. As she walked up behind me, I held my arm out to her, and she immediately said, “Do I get a hug?!?!”

    Thank you for the eye opener. Now off to read the article.

  2. Cari, your comment just made my night. When do we ever NOT need a hug? Honestly, I was hoping that just one person who read this hugged their baby (however big that baby might be) and it made a brighter day for all. And sorry, it’s not an article, it’s a book. It is incredible and well worth a read. For all the extra time you have on your hands, you know.