New York, here we come!

The last time my darling and I took any more than 24 hours away from our children was ages ago.  4 years ago (to be exact) we flew to Boston for a friend’s wedding.  It was a glorious weekend.  Friends, laughter, and sweet memories.  No wine, because I was pregnant with Gabriel, but I think I’m over that now.  I think.

Even those little 24 hours breaks (thank you grandparents!) have been few and far between.  Kevin and I usually prefer to give each other a brief respite here and there, rather than plan a big weekend away.  Weekends causes stress and trauma, lack of sleep for the caretakers, and (more often than not) a big dent in our budget.  So once a month or so we each sneak away for brunch with friends, a  massage, golf or if we’re lucky, to dinner together.  We’re happy, the kids are happy, and we all get what we need emotionally.

However, due to circumstances beyond our control, what was supposed to be an autumn family trip back east has now become our next  romantic getaway.  The kids will be staying at my parents’ house.  This is their version of heaven: animals to play with, 40 acres to run free on, and best of all: an auntie, an Oma and an Opa to love on them and give them tractor rides galore.  I am, as you can imagine, completely devastated by this turn of events.

Ha!  Kidding!  I’m not devastated!  I’m ecstatic!  I’m overjoyed!  I’m giddy with anticipation!

I’m freaking Julie Andrews in the Swiss Alps!

 

And, true to form, I’m also feeling guilty.

 

Why do I feel guilty?  The answer will probably surprise you.  (It certainly surprised me when I figured it out.)  I feel guilty because I’m worried what other people will think about the fact that I’m so giddy about this trip.  Will some of my friends think I’m silly for waiting 4 long years to go away?  Will other friends judge me for leaving my little ones for 3 whole nights?  Are still others plagued with pangs of jealousy because they can’t, for whatever reason, get away right now?

Once I realized my guilt wasn’t caused by my conscience, but rather by my own worries about how other people felt, it was pretty easy to let it go.  I have joy in my life, I have something special, and I wanted to share it with you.  You’re okay with that, right?

Awesome.

NY Here we come

 

And if you’re free the last weekend in September, you know where to find me.  Spinning in circles on the banks of the Hudson River, holding my sweet husband’s hand.

Comments

  1. Enjoy!!! Sounds delightful! I am planning a romantic getaway AS SOON AS little Mr B is weaned… one year from now??? I don’t judge you! I celebrate with you! And I can’t freakin’ wait until my turn. You’ve paid your dues, Micaela. Have a blast!

    • This is actually helping move the weaning along. Don’t want my parents to be in total h-e-/-/ for a weekend. Hehehehe, hi Mom and Dad! Just kidding!

  2. Have a wonderful time!!
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  3. EXCELLENT psychoanalysis!!! Wow, you should charge yourself with that. And the picture of you two, splendid! You guys are just gorgeous, have fun!

  4. I live in the fair city and have some recs:

    1. Korean spa: Spa Castle in Queens and King Spa in Ft. Lee, NJ. Both have shuttle buses.
    2. Best bagels: Absolute Bagel at 108th and Broadway. Toasted=10 cents extra and worth it.
    3. Best restaurant: Noodle Pudding on Henry Street in Brooklyn. Great after a walk across the Brooklyn Bridge, near promenade and Brooklyn Bridge Park.
    4. Free hours at museums=great. Rooftop garden at Met=place for drinks.
    5. Fun food places: Eataly, Chelsea Market, any ethnic nabe.
    6. Active: rent bikes or Citibikes and ride Central Park or the West Side Highway greenway. Walk the High Line.
    7. Smaller musuems that are great: Museum of the Moving Image (Queens), Museum of Art and Design (Columbus Circle), Cloisters (must see), Rubin Museum of Art.
    8. Cheap way to see the city: CityPass.
    9. Embedding yourself is best. Get Time Out NY or NY Magazine and check out a lecture, performance or local event.
    10. Easier way to to B’Way: tdf.org online (you can do this if you get a $20 membership as a teacher) or the TKTS line at South Street Seaport or Brooklyn. Shorter lines.
    11. Disappointing: going to the Statue of Liberty. Time wasting bummer. Take the Staten Island Ferry (free) and see Lady Liberty. Also, IKEA ferry from Wall Street to Brooklyn is free (depending) and you can see a lot of the waterfront (and eat at IKEA).