Most People Wouldn’t, But I Would

I like to think of Cari as my gateway blogger.  She started reading and commenting on California to Korea waaaaaaaay back in 2011, when the only other people reading were my mom and mother in law.  Oh, and Cari’s friend Lisa, who is also my friend and former co-worker, and who “introduced” us.  I remember wondering who this funny Cari-lady was, and then (again, thanks to Lisa) finding her blog, Clan Donaldson.

Through Cari I discovered a vast ocean of other bloggers.  Bloggers like me in many ways, different from me in many others.  Before Cari, I didn’t read a single blog regularly.  Now I have… 2 dozen?  maybe more? in my daily blog feed.  And it’s all thanks to her.

Then Cari took our friendship one step further.  She invited me to consider the Disciples of Jesus and Mary faith formation program, and that’s where she really made a difference in my life.  I don’t think words can express how much it has changed me for the better.

Enough with the backstory:

Most people wouldn’t drive a couple hours to see a friend they’ve never actually met, but as it turns out, I would.  Sunday I drove a couple hours to see Cari, Ken and their broods of children and chickens.

This guy:


Cari’s son, John-Luke

must have sensed how much I was missing my own kids, and he was perfectly content to snuggle in my lap for most of the afternoon.


This girl:


Cari’s daughter, Lotus

must have sensed that my faith in chickens was in need of formation.  I think she may have converted me.  Just look at her adorable self toting around her favorite chick, Sunflower.  Even I don’t have a hard enough heart to rebuff that.

A couple of my favorite quotes:

Lotus: Wow, you have beautiful hair!  (That’s a well-brought up girl, Cari.)

John-Luke: (I had tied my hair up in a bun, and when he noticed he stopped a few feet away) Where’s your hairs?! 

For the life of me I can’t remember which big kid said this, but it made me laugh so hard: Wow, Veronica doesn’t hate you nearly as much as she hates everyone else!  Usually she only likes Mommy!  (All this was said while Veronica stared stoically at me and allowed me to put on a wayward boot.)

Honestly, I could tell you some really wonderful things about meeting Cari in person, but the best thing about it was how normal it was.  The Donaldsons are a family full of good graces, authentic friendliness, and genuine laughter.   I can now corroborate with complete certainty that Cari’s online personality is perfectly consistent with her actual self.

And you know what?  I’m not the least bit surprised.

To sum up a rambling post: don’t be afraid to put yourself out there and allow online friends to become real friends.  The rewards can be very great.

Oh, and if you haven’t already, make sure to head over to Amazon and pre-order Cari’s book.  Judging by its author’s personality, it’s sure to be an amusing and inspiring read.


  1. This is so sweet. Especially that picture of Cari’s daughter. What a smile. It had to be so cool to finally meet in person!
    The “where’s you hairs?” comment cracks me up.
    And I’m totally looking forward to reading the book! I wanna find out how they went from being dog parents to having a big family. That’s gonna hit home for alot of people.

    • Ah, Heather, if only we had been a little bit closer, I totally would have stalked you too! Next time I’m in Utica, though… Watch out!

  2. Love this. I have a few really close friends i met on the internet, and they are definitely “real” friends. The internet just opens ourselves up so much wider to so many more friends.
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    • I think I initially felt nervous because I’ve lost good friends due to online baloney. It made me wary of new people. But it really is gratifying that’s an meets any people online who share my values, etc. It’s just not possible in person.

  3. We didn’t even get to talk about DJM! Oh darn. Looks like a phone call needs to be scheduled.
    And reading about my family through your words makes me all teary.
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    • Actually, I just remembered that now that I’m back here I can look up the DJM group in LA. I had totally forgotten about that.

      Thanks again, friend.

  4. Gosh, this story sounds familiar, with a twist! I first saw Cari through her comments on a big ol’ blog, and she was so funny and witty I looked her up. Hers became the first blog of its kind I had ever even seen. Fast forward two years, I started blogging and linking up with her, and that is how I found all my great blogs I follow, like this one!
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