Musings on parenting: 7 Quick Thoughts

So, the other day I wrote a slightly controversial post about the baby sleeping routine in our house, and it got more reads than any post I’ve written in months.  I imagine that’s because this whole baby sleep thing can be very polarizing.  It got me thinking, though, that I have a lot of parenting posts that I *think* about writing, but then I either don’t get around to them or I don’t have enough material for a full post.  So I’m going to share a few thoughts on parenting that I think are less controversial and more unifying.  For fun.  And because I like when we all get along.

This is me: smiling at you and not judging you.

This is me: smiling at you and not judging you.

1. Seek inspiration, not advice.

I used to read a bazillion parenting books a year.  Scratch that: I began reading a bazillion books a year.  I never finished most of them, though, because what they offered was more in the way advice than inspiration.  What’s the difference, you ask?  Oh, I’m so glad you did.

Inspiration makes you want to be a better version of yourself by seeing something beautiful that will work for your family.  Advice makes you try to fit your family into someone else’s mold.  Advice can leave you feeling disappointed and incompetent while inspiration continues to lead you on to greater heights.  Seek out friends who inspire you to be you (only better) rather than people who you actually want to be.

Who inspires you?

2. Yes means yes, no means no.  And yes means no, and no means yes.

“Let your yes mean yes, and your no mean no.”  Far be it from me to contradict the Bible but, in another context, it’s interesting to think about how the opposite is true.  As Matthew Kelly said at a recent workshop, “When you say yes to one thing, you’re also saying no to something else.”  When I say yes to taking that extra class, I’m saying no to naps and read-alouds.  When I say no to TV, I’m saying yes to outside play and an opportunity to learn to entertain themselves.

It helps me parent when I see the effects of the yeses and noes.  You?

What do you want to say “yes” to?

3. Read more, scold less

When I read out loud to my kids, we all relax.  We laugh and enjoy each other and there just seems to be less conflict.  I’m sure some smarty-pants could tell me why (hormones? fairy dust?) but it doesn’t actually matter to me that much.  Anything that we all enjoy goes in the “win” column.

What does your family do that lessens the tension?

4. Drink Tab and Lock Them Outside

I didn’t write this one, but I wish I had.

What Would My Mom Do?  (Drink Tab and Lock Us Outside)

5. Objective Truths in Parenting

I actually did write this one, and I hope, especially if you disagreed with me on the sleep post, that you’ll take some time to read it.

Objective Truths in Parenting: Surprise!  There aren’t that many!

6. Getting rid of stuff makes me a better mom

We have been in major clean-out mode and it has made my life so much better.  All of our lives, really.  The kids are excited that their chores take far less time and I am just so happy to be in a home that isn’t overflowing with stuff.  I’ll still work on cleaning out a few more trouble spots this weekend and then next week, it’s the Holy Week Deep Clean.

Who’s with me?

7. Parenting is not a competition

The end.

Go visit Kelly @ This Ain’t the Lyceum and give her a cyber hug.  She totally deserves it.



  1. Can I just love the fact that we were both up with our babies at the same time and both used mother-baby selfies as our quick takes thumbnail? Twins.
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  2. Yes to all of it! Great list!
    I haven’t read the sleep post yet, but it’s been on my list of things to get to. I’m headed there now 🙂
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  3. Love the first take and last take. =)
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  4. Ohhh, I like the sound of a Holy Week deep clean
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