Last year I wrote a series of three posts on the intersection of two very dear topics: politics and friendship. I had pretty much all but forgotten about them until I wrote my Most Posts a few weeks ago. I didn’t include them for some reason, but they’ve been wandering around my brain for weeks on end. And then I received an mass email in which the opening line was “Micaela, you already know this is an election year…”
And it struck fear and dread into my heart. No, I didn’t realize. I would have been much happier in my bubble of Mommy blog without that knowledge, thank you very much. The last time it was an election year, I lost friends. Some of the closest friends I had, and people I had assumed would always be with me forever and ever, amen. So you can see why the thought of another election cycle is horrifying. These three posts, written several months after one of the most hurtful and yet enlightening moments of my life, were the result of a lot of prayer and self-reflection.
In an email exchange a few weeks back, a friend of mine referred to “the issues that are tearing America apart.” The issues she was referring to, abortion and same sex marriage, are the hot button topics of today, as well as a particular struggle in my friendship with this wonderful lady.
And before you sink into fight-or-flight mode: I won’t be discussing either of those topics today. You’re welcome.
Isn’t it better that we correct others, chastise them, in order to hopefully get them to see the Truth? After all, instructing the ignorant and admonishing sinners are listed as Spiritual Works of Mercy. Far be it from me to question the works of mercy. I’m not suggesting anyone sit down and shut their traps about important issues. I’m merely suggesting that there are better ways, more fruitful ways, of interacting with our political adversaries. Especially since those people are often our loved ones.
It’s like your mama said, “If you can’t speak on something without being self-righteous, rude and sarcastic, you probably shouldn’t speak at all.” Or something like that.
What brought about this reminder? Well, yesterday I was self-righteous, rude and sarcastic. It felt great for about 1 minute. And since then I’ve been sick to my stomach.
I have a little more wisdom now than I had back then, so I do hope to avoid the pitfalls I collapsed in last time. Certainly it was fruitful for me to re-read these. I hope they speak to you a little too. I’d love to hear your thoughts on them if you have a minute to share.
A whole helping of Love,