Oh, y’all. This blog has been so quiet lately. I’ve missed you but I’m also relatively at peace with this stage of my life and motherhood. Not much time to blog, and that’s okay. I’ll get back to regular posting at some point, but in the meantime, I do what I can. You’re okay with that, right?
Can I share with you a new book that I’m really excited about, though? Connie Rossini, who blogs over at Contemplative Homeschool, is writing a series of medium length books on how to help your child grow spiritually based on their temperament. The first book in the series, Spiritual Growth Plan for Your Choleric Child, was released yesterday and I snatched it right up. But you, dear readers, have the opportunity to WIN a free copy. Read through to the end to see how.
Thanks, Micaela! I’m a Catholic wife and mother of four boys, living in southern Minnesota. I have a B.A. in Elementary Education and have homeschooled since our oldest child was four. I write a spirituality column for our diocesan newspaper and blog at Contemplative Homechool. I am also a columnist at Spiritual Direction. Last year I published my first book, Trusting God with St. Therese.
For those who’ve never heard of the Four Temperaments, can you give us a brief history and/or overview?
Hippocrates, the “father of medicine,” recognized four patterns of behavior among his patients. Some people reacted quickly to stimuli and held onto their impressions. Others reacted quickly, but just as quickly moved on. Some had a very mild reaction which came slowly and didn’t appear to last. Others reacted slowly, but held onto their impressions. A few centuries later, Galen related these reactions to four bodily fluids or humors. He called them choleric, sanguine, phlegmatic, and melancholic. Catholic philosophers, theologians, and psychologists throughout the centuries have generally accepted these distinctions. We no longer tie the temperaments to bodily fluids, but they are believed to be inborn, biological traits that we can’t change. However, we can learn to use our temperaments in a positive way, minimizing their negative aspects.
Do you have a choleric child? What are the benefits and the struggles of having a child with this temperament?
Oh, yes! My first child is a choleric. Cholerics are full of energy. They have noble ideals. They are determined to meet their goals and skillful at recruiting others to help them. They are hardworking. A choleric can be his parents’ best helper at home. If he learns about his weaknesses, he will strive to overcome them. Many cholerics have grown up to be great saints.
At the same time, cholerics can be very challenging to parent, especially for parents who are introverts. Cholerics never stop–moving, arguing, or working. This can totally exhaust their parents. It easily leads to power struggles. Cholerics have their own opinion about everything and voice it loudly. They can control and manipulate their siblings to get their way. They have quick and sometimes violent anger.
Your new book, A Spiritual Growth Plan for Your Choleric Child, is offered as an aid to parents. What can parents hope to get from this book?
I want to help parents and their children to be a team working together. I share many things that have worked for us. My biggest success so far has been teaching my son to lead by serving others, rather than by force of his personality. I have seen a total turn-around in his relationship with our youngest son as our choleric made a priority out of helping him. I show you how you can achieve the same results, step by step. I give tips for helping the choleric think before speaking, taking first steps toward humility, and learning empathy. I offer templates for teaching your choleric child to pray and for planning a year’s work on specific virtues. I also have some detailed lesson plans for homeschoolers.
Thanks for joining us today, Connie. Now the rest of you, guess what? Connie is giving away a copy of her paperback book to one of my readers! All you need to do is share about her new book (either by sharing this post or a direct link to Amazon) via Twitter or email. Use the Rafflecopter below to enter.
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