My Last Tour in South Korea, part 1.5

You can read Part 1 here.

Just going to take a little detour here, for fun…

The Korean War may have devastated families and divided a nation, but it also unintentionally created a nature preserve with the most diverse wildlife population on the peninsula.  According to Stripes, the military newspaper:

While mention of the DMZ conjures images of stone-faced soldiers, barbed-wire fences, guns and guard towers, the area between North and South Korea has remained virtually untouched by humans for more than 55 years.

As a result, the DMZ has essentially become a 2.5-mile-wide, 155-mile-long nature park that is home to more than 50 species of mammals, roughly 200 kinds of birds and in excess of 1,000 plant species. Some of the birds and animals that live or visit here are threatened or endangered. 

I wouldn’t have even mentioned it, except for this sweet little guy:

 

Uh, yeah.  That’s a vampire deer.  I think it has another less sinister name, but really.  Come on.  It’s a deer with scary big fangs.

VAMPIRE.

This cuddly little monster  lives (with all his vampire homies) in the DMZ.  I didn’t get to see one, but the soldier who took us on our tour had some photos on his phone.  Crazy, right?

 

Quick A/B poll:

Which response best characterizes your feelings after reading this post?

A) “I did want to visit the DMZ, however you have permanently scarred me.  I am now hiding under my bed with no plans to emerge, just in case you brought one of those… things… back with you.  Just say NO to the DMZ.”

B) “You know, I wasn’t really that interested in all this DMZ mumbo-jumbo before.  However, vampire deer have captured my attention and now I’m booking flights and researching nature expeditions in the area.  DMZ or bust!”

I’ll be back soon with some more of my own thoughts and photos of the DMZ.

 

Hello, California! and SUBSCRIBER NEWS!

This is the longest Saturday of my life.  Literally.  It has been Saturday for 40 hours.  

After 40 hours of consideration, I’m pretty sure there’s a reason there’s only 24 hours in a day.
Leaving Daegu
The flights and overall trip were smooth as can silk.  If, of course, silk was a mildly rough material with a few snags. Let’s just say it went as smoothly as can be expected with 4 kids and an 11 hour international flight.  Really though, the older three were amazing,
 
and Zeke was… Zeke.  
Working on moving (via osmosis) through the glass. 

This adorableness lasted 13.2 seconds
But really, there were some fabulous parts about the trip. Greeting grandparents ranked highest on the list:

This Friday I hope to share the best shots from our trip.  You will not want to miss those Quick Takes.  Especially if you love fashion, and quirky Korean things.  AH-mazing.
In the meantime…
ATTENTION ALL EMAIL SUBSCRIBERS!
If you subscribe to this blog via the Blogger automatic emails, plaese check back in a few days.  This here bloggy-blog is moving over to WordPress and I don’t think the subscriptions will follow.  The blog address will remain the same, so if you just go to www.CaliforniaToKorea.com that should work fine.  Once the switch (“migration” in fancy techie speak!) happens, you can sign up with WordPress to receive email updates in the same way.  Be patient with me as I learn a new system, okay?

Farewell, Daegu!

At the time of this posting, our plane will be taking off (fingers crossed! no delays PLEASE! St. Christopher, pray for us! pleasepleaseplease! ) from Incheon International Airport.

Our hearts are full of sorrow at leaving this wonderful city and country.  We love you and will miss you all.  So much gratitude…

Catch you on the flip side of the Pacific!

Dads: Theme Thursday

You guys.  I have like 4 seconds to write this post, and it. is. killing. me.  I have so much love for my dad, my father in law, my grandfathers, my husband.  I want to wax philosophical and say all the important things about all the dads, but I just can’t.  Please forgive me.  It’s not for lack of love, I promise.

Two of my favorite dads: Kevin with our niece and goddaughter Gemma, and my brother Luke with his godson Zeke.

Also, this one.  Taken on the same day.  Please note: beer, seesaw, playground.

It’s a happy shot, but it’s only incredible if you know what’s happening on the other end of the pushmepullyu seesaw:

Dads bring joy.

Okay, I just cannot acknowledge the 3 other most important dads in my life.  Packing will have to wait.

My Grandpa Bill.  He passed away 4 months before our wedding, and it was the only sad thing about that day.  He was an absolutely incredible man, and I love and miss him dearly.

My dad on last summer’s camping trip, teaching Gabe how to… something to a crayfish.  This photo, taken on my old and terrible camera, just melts my heart every single time.

And last but certainly not least, my father in law, who is one of the most generous souls I’ve ever met.  This was taken last summer at the 4th of July parade.

To all the dads: Thank you so much for all you do!

Now head over to Clan Donaldson for more Daddy love.

P.S. To all the linkers, I am so so so sorry, but I’m going to be away from my computer for the next few days. I hope to catch up next week when I’m awake in the wee hours of the morning due to the dreaded jet lag.

Ironic. Or is it?

UPDATE: I got the best news ever! Camera was returned to the gym and I’m going to pick it up in the morning. Thank you, thank you, thank for all your prayers, re-posts, and advice.  You people totally rock.

………………..
Today I was mentally composing a post on how wonderful it is not to have any stuff.  What? You’re tired of hearing me say that? Well, too bad. I really AM happier and more carefree – a lot more carefree – without all my junk hanging around.

It just so happened that today was a day I had to keep the kids out all day, so the professional house cleaners could un-gross-ify our apartment for the next renters.  We went to about 20 different places, the boys (sort of) napped in the car, etc. So it wasn’t until I was home, gathering our minimalist belongings from the floor of our borrowed van that I realized I was missing one very important possession.
My camera bag, camera, and extra lens.
Short version: I left it, along with two of the kids’ sweatshirts, inside a locker at the gym after swimming.  The next person who came along thought it was Christmas-in-June and took all the items.  The gym doesn’t keep track of who checks out what locker.  So unless the woman in question develops her conscience between now and Saturday when we fly out of here… I am out of luck.
Vomit.
Yes, I know it’s not one of my children.  I know it’s just a silly possession and I shouldn’t care at all about losing it.  But right now I am darned near as devastated as someone can be at losing a piece of technology.
If you live in Daegu: would you share this post on your wall?
Details:
Black and silver Sony C-3 DSLR, with kit lens AND 50 mm/1.8 lens, inside a black camera bag that is red and gray inside.  
Boys brown zip-up sweatshirt, girls pullover teal sweatshirt with silver studs in the shape of a heart

Please return (no questions asked) to Kelly Gym front desk.
If you pray, would you pray for a) the woman to turn in the camera ASAP, and b) for me to let go of my attachment to material possessions.  Either that or for me to get her address and political immunity?  Joking… sort of.

P.S. I titled this post “Ironic,” but I had to add the “Or is it?” because like Cari, Alannis Morisette completely confused me on the actual definition and now I never know if I’m using it correctly. Thank y

My Last Tour in South Korea, part 1

Last Friday I had the honor of attending a tour to a very small and particular area of South Korea called the JSA.  The word ‘honor’ feels awkward.  It’s not like I was invited, or that it was some special tour only for American mommy bloggers in Korea.  (On the contrary, anyone with a passport can sign up for a tour on any given Friday or Saturday.)  However, I did feel honored to be there, and moved, and emotional because the place is decidedly unique, steeped in powerful history, and it was an experience I won’t soon forget.

I went to the JSA, or Joint Security Area, located within the DMZ, or Demilitarized Zone, which is on the border between South and North Korea.  The DMZ runs the width of the border, 4 kilometers wide, from the Yellow Sea to the Sea of Japan.  In the middle of it lies the border, or Military Demarcation Line, which is also called (you guessed it) the MDL.

Because of the early start to the tour, I had to take a 1:30 a.m. bus from Daegu to Seoul.  Upon arriving in Seoul at 5 a.m., I made my way to the Dragon Hill Lodge, a hotel on the Yongsan Army Garrison.  There, after some breakfast and a few cups of coffee, I met my tour bus, fellow tourists, and our guide.

As we took the 1 hour bus ride from Seoul to the DMZ, our tour guide, a Korean National with an obvious interest in history, gave us a brief background on the Korean War and pointed out some interesting sights along the way.  For example, he pointed out Gangnam, made famous (infamous?) by rapper Psy.  Gangnam means “south of the river” and it is the “new” section of Seoul built south of the Han Gang (Han River).

As we got further out of Seoul, he pointed out the barbed wire fences that line the river, and the security posts, which despite their dilapidated appearances, are still manned by ROK (Republic of Korea) soldiers.  This precaution is taken because North Korean spies have been known to travel up the river during the rainy season and infiltrate Seoul and its surrounding towns.

After about 50 minutes of driving, we approached the Civilian Control Area of the DMZ.  All travelers must submit their names here.  Our tour guide gave a list of passengers to a ROK soldier and our bus moved on, over Cow Bridge, otherwise known as Unification Bridge.

The story goes, according to the guide, that the founder of Hyundai Motor Company was born and raised in North Korea.  Before the war, he moved south and built his successful business.  Afterwards he wanted to donate livestock to the village where he grew up.  The DPRK (North Korean) government was happy to receive his donation, but there was only one problem.  There was no bridge big enough to send the herd of cows over.  So, Mr. Hyundai (not his actual name), ever the resourceful businessman, built a bridge and donated the cattle.

As we moved into the DMZ, time began to take on a very surreal quality.  I imagined the war and violence that had taken place here, the division of families and the utter despair caused by it all.  Young men lost in battle, people cowering silently in marshes as bullets fired around them, children ripped from their mothers’ arms by war, and later by tyrants.  Sound dramatic?  My imagination surely was.  I have no idea if the images I pictured were historically accurate.  I can tell you though, that there is something completely different about this place.  It’s like no other place I’ve been in my life. I had been praying my rosary in the silences between the guides anecdotes, but at this time I ceased to have any real thought except, “Please God.  Heal this place. Free these people.”

I’ll be back with part 2… as soon as I can.  This weekend is The Big Move, and I really hope to post it before then, but no promises.

The Item I Forgot to Add to the To-Do List, or: Parenting Fail #17,479

Have you seen this video?

Oh my, it makes me laugh so hard.  It’s particularly funny to me because I can identify both with the woman (I have so said “Don’t try to fix it.  Just listen!” to Kevin,) and the man.  I am a fixer and a doer as well.

But let me back up a minute.

Our house is nearly empty. (Pack-out done: check)
Our van is gone (Ship van: check)
Today we said goodbye to our fellow parishioners at Holy Family Parish.  We had not one, but two going away parties. (Spend time with friends: check)

So, things are getting checked off the list.  Things are getting close to being done and we are getting closer to The Big Day.

When we finally got home tonight (way past bedtime) the kids were amped up and wild.  Kevin and I were beat.

Cue the bedtime routine:
Grown-ups: “get in your pajamas, brush your teeth, stop jumping on the borrowed couch, no you may not have a snack it’s bedtime,stop wringing your brother’s neck” etc.
Kids: {alternately laughing maniacally and sobbing hysterically}
Grown-ups: {rolling of eyes and gritting of teeth}

When I finally got the girls in their beds I nearly headed into lecture mode about following directions the first time and respect for authority.  But instead these words came out of my mouth. “I want to talk to you girls about the move.”

Sobbing softens to expectant silence.

[The very important thing I forgot to add to my to-do list: "Talk to kids about the move." Doh! See? Doer, not a Good Listener.]

“So you know that we’re flying to California on Saturday.  We’re saying goodbye to a lot of people.  And when we have big moves or changes like this, it gives us big feelings.  Sometimes I am excited, but I also get sad, and sometimes I am stressed out.  Have you guys been feeling that way too? Do you have any questions about what’s going to happen?”

And then a flurry of questions began, some of them heart-wrenchingly difficult to answer.  But the worst was:

“Will we ever see our friends again?”

Because the answer I had to give them was: “I don’t know.”

I honestly do not know if we will see some of the wonderful people we’ve met here ever again.  But there is always hope.  A tenuous hope, but hope nonetheless, that someday down the road we will see our new friends again, in the place where we left our old ones behind.

3 Reasons, Vol. 3, with bonus 3 Surprising Quick Takes

I don’t even know if this is allowed.  A link-up within a link-up?  Seems like a blogger pyramid scheme is there were such a thing, and if there was any money to be had by being so uncouth.

Ne’ertheless, please forgive my bad manners, read on, and participate if you so choose.

3 Reasons I Love Catholicism, vol. 3

Here are Vol. 1, Vol. 2

The Pope Francis Edition

~1~
This Papa Francesco quote from yesterday:

“We should all remember, however, that throwing food away is like stealing from the tables of the the poor, the hungry! I encourage everyone to reflect on the problem of thrown away and wasted food to identify ways and means that, by seriously addressing this issue, are a vehicle of solidarity and sharing with the needy.”

I’m as guilty as anyone of this, so no judgement here!  Just a really wonderful reminder that our small actions can benefit (or hurt) people everywhere.  Additional points given to Catholicism for being one of the largest philanthropic organizations in the world.

~2~
Pope Francis in the rain
Source
There he is, out there in the rain, getting wet in what nust be terribly heavy robes so as to reach out to his flock.  It gives me such great hope to see a leader who doesn’t let a little weather stand in the way of connecting with his people.

~3~

Worldwide Eucharistic Adoration
I had the amazing good fortune of driving to a local Korean Catholic Church on Sunday night and finding it packed with Catholics for Eucharistic adoration.  This was at midnight, so I was both happy and surprised to find what a I did.  At first there was the procession and solemn prayer, and then a screen was rolled down and we watched the ceremony in Rome.  I felt a little conflicted because I had to keep drawing my mind back to the real reason I was there: the Real Presence.  At the same time, to know that thousands, if not millions, of Catholics were praying similar prayers at the same moment I was was a wonderful feeling.  I’m so glad Pope Francis did this, and I hope he continues with the tradition.
~4~
Now it’s your turn!

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~5~
When this publishes, I will be alone, on a bus to Seoul.  It will be 4 a.m. Korea time.  Why, you ask?  Because I couldn’t leave Korea without crossing this tour off my bucket list.
Now you know the real reason I combined 3 Reasons with Quick Takes!  I couldn’t not tell you about this, right?!
~6~
In the photo above: 3 South Korean (ROK: Republic of Korea) soldiers guarding the border to North Korea.  And yes, I am willingly - excitedly – going there.  On purpose. 
As far as I know, there is no other place like it in the world, so I want to get there while I still can.  A few months ago, when tensions were high between North and South Korea, we thought the tours would be closed.  But things have cooled off and the tours continue.  So off I go.
~7~
While I’m not worried at all, I will gladly accept your prayers of safety.  Mostly you should pray for Kevin, though, as he wrangles Zeke who will be none too pleased to find Mama missing in the middle of the night.
Head on over to Jen for more Quick Takes, but be sure to come back this month to link up for 3 Reasons, mmmkay?  My link-up will be open all month. Ahem.  (Wink wink, Jen)

PLUS
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For-EVAH!

Girls: Theme Thursday

Do you know what I did when I found out my firstborn was going to be a girl? I almost threw up, that’s what. My first thought was, “A girrrrrl?” What am *I* going to do with a girl?!”

Quick early life recap:

I was born a second child, with an older brother.
18 months later, another brother was born
18 months after that, another brother
3 years later, another brother
18 months after him, yet another brother
3 years later, another brother (my parents let me pick his middle name, they felt sooooo badly for me by this time)
Almost 2 years later, another brother

It wasn’t until I was nearly sixTEEN years old, I got my lifelong wish of a little sister.  Since then I’ve gotten two more, and they are all truly wonderful.  Here is one who is celebrating her high school graduation today very far away from here.

Happy Graduation, sweet Anne Marie!  I so wish I could be there to hug you tight.

(Apparently those stunning different-colored eyes are
a genetic deformity. Go figure.)

But back to me. In high school and college I made some very special girlfriends, but I’ve still never thought of myself as super-feminine. I like to do “girly” things, but somehow they don’t even make it on my radar unless someone else suggests them.

Suffice it to say that being a mother to girls is very difficult for me, but it’s also really good for me. I stumbled across this excellent blog post a couple months back and it was so refreshing.  April at My Feminine Mind shares her thoughts on the terms “girly-girls” and “tomboys.” My favorite line is this one:

“The truth is, both of my girls are feminine, because they are both girls, and it is they who define what it means to be feminine, not a stereotype.”  

It fits for my family, too.

Here are my girls:

Gianna:

To whom being a girl means skating, coloring, playing with friends, and climbing climbing climbing anything with a height taller than her own.

Aliya:

To whom being a girl means doing her hair (and make-up when Mom allows), taking care of babies, and having special stolen moments with me.

Here they both are last week on the last day of school.  They decided to dress up to celebrate.

And on a far more typical day like today:

Finally, because this just happened today and it touched me dearly:

Among our very limited toys (everything else was packed up and shipped yesterday) is some silly putty. Gianna made a book which was secret until she finished it.

This is what it says:

“This is me and I think that I am good.” (“Good” was supposed to be “beautiful’ but it wouldn’t fit.)

If this struggling girl-mama had anything to do with that idea, then it’s by God’s grace alone.

Head on over to Clan Donaldson for more girlyness. (Why does that sound dirty?)

Organizing, Packing, and a Whole Lot of Sitting

It doesn’t make a difference how much effort we put into moves, we always always have a few late nights the week before the big day.  This move is no different.  You know you’re in trouble when you drink coffee at 10 p.m. to stay up til 2 and then stumble into the the kitchen for some more at 6 a.m.

Le sigh.

It’s a good thing the kids have been sleeping well (by other people’s standards it would be considered “mediocre”) or we wouldn’t have gotten nearly enough done these past weeks.  As it was, when we went to bed last night (this morning), we were feeling pretty on top of things.  Of course, this morning (later than when we went to bed, but not by much) there was the mad dash to strip the beds, take down curtains, clean up the wake of Tornado Ezekiel, etc, but by the time the babysitter and the movers had arrived, we were ready.

Since then, I’ve done exactly this: set out snacks, make lunch, answer a few questions about what to pack and locations of things.  And now I’m blogging.  In the daylight.

No kids, no packing, no cleaning?  Is it bad that a packing day seems like a vacation day?  I’m gonna go with “no” just because I know how much sweat I’ve put in over the the last few weeks.  And how much more work there is to come over the next 11 days.

11 days.  Yikes on bikes.

Tardy Mid-Post Warning: I honestly don’t know where this is going except it’s giving me something to do while I wait for them to come pry my bed from my bloody, grasping fingertips.  I know from experience that it’s the only thing I’ll miss.

Some random interesting (or not so interesting) tidbits:

~Am I sad my stuff is leaving?  Hells no.  I’m doin backflips of joy!  Of course, I’m avoiding the emotional aspects of what this means and completely ignoring the “no-turning-back-now” signals.  But to not have to clean anything?  Pick anything up?  To temporarily live the spartan life I dream of?  YES, PUH-LEAZE!

~Are Koreans actually hobbits?  I’m not referring to their height, especially as Koreans are considered to the the tallest Asians.  No, what I mean is this: I fed the movers snacks at about 10 a.m.   Then at 11 a.m. I made them sandwiches along with those I made for my family.  Then at 12 they left for lunch! I think it has something to do with courtesy.  They didn’t want to turn down my hospitality.  Or maybe they just like Second Breakfast and Elevensies.  Maybe some of my Korean readers can enlighten us.  (Judy and Roxy, I’m looking at you.) Anyway, no more food for them. Get crackin’ guys!

~And speaking of moving… Ye Olde Blogge is about to make a big move.  Right about the time we fly out of Korea, this blog will be moving to a faster, fancier, prettier format.  Don’t worry, the blog address will remain the same, and I wouldn’t dare deprive you of my hackneyed writing and emerging photographic prowess (wink wink), so that’s safe. Just a new look, and a way easier way to comment and stay in touch,  Because I love you! I really really do!  (I don’t think, Dear Reader, that you will need to do anything to stay in touch, unless you follow me on Blogger Dashboard.  But if something goes awry, we’ll figure it out together, alrighty?)

No moving post would be complete without a couple crazy moving photos:  (Excuse the photo quality.  These were taken on the world’s worst camera: the iPad.)

That’s 40 ROLLS of packing tape, people.  My environmentalist heart is palpitating right now.

Those are crates filled with some of our belongings, nailed shut, and about to be sent on a SHIP across the OCEAN.  I don’t know why I find that to be insane, but I do.

If you made it all the way to the end of this snooze-fest, good for you.  I about fell asleep writing.  Oops! It’s 2 p.m.!  Time for more coffee!